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4 Steps to Creating the Life You Want and Deserve

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You want the perfect life. You want to jump through those hoops, get that glory and actually be happy with the greatest of ease. Whether you want to travel the world, launch your own business, get out of your dead-end job or be a dog walker, pursuing your passion is something I know you want.

So, what are you doing to get there?

Truth is, many of us want all these things but don’t do much to get started. Essentially, we’re all stuck behind the wheel of our own lives. Or worse off, you may be sitting in the backseat and letting someone else navigate.

I’m here to tell you that it is possible to live a remarkable, story-worthy life you can tell tales about for years to come. It’s possible to stick it to those nay-sayers and get your life started. It’s possible to have what you want.

But, it’s up to YOU to make it happen.

Let’s look at some ways to get started:

1. Stop wondering what you want and figure it out right now

You may not even know what you want out of your life. Think about it: When is the last time you sat down and did some heavy soul-searching to figure out what you want? Been awhile, eh?

That soul-searching is the one-way ticket to understanding what you want out of your life—so get to it, immediately. Understanding what you really want will help to make you happier and more fulfilled… and who wouldn’t want that?

Tip: Call up your best friend and ask them to help you articulate what you really want. Then write up your vision for an ideal life. Leave nothing out.

2. Create bold, out-of-your-comfort-zone goals

What’s the point of being on this journey if you’re not going to be bold?

Now, I’m not saying you have to do anything irresponsible or dangerous. I’m saying you should be daring. You should be ambitious. You should feel scared. Your goals should feel audacious, and you should know that you achieved more out of life. This starts with creating goals for yourself that may be out of your comfort zone.

Tip: Start small. If your goal is to be the President, you don’t throw yourself into a political campaign, do you? You outline how you’re going to get yourself to that level and take the steps necessary to get there. Same goes for your goal. Pick one thing you can do today and do it. Then choose the next one and keep going.

3. Muster up some confidence to drive you to take action

Confidence is a key element to flipping your system. You’ll find that when you muster the confidence to move ahead with your bold goals, you’ll let go of your fears and your vulnerabilities. Plus, when you start having more conviction in yourself, you’ll discover strategies to fill in any confidence gaps that have kept you in the passenger seat of your own life.

Tip: If you’re having confidence problems, find out why. Is it because your goals are bold and you’re scared? Is it because you don’t know where to start? Perhaps you just need someone to help push you in the right direction. Whatever the reason, raising your awareness is half the battle. Taking action to correct it is the other half.

4. Take charge and do the work

No one is going to do the work for you. Sad, but true.

When you’re making major life transformations, getting up and running is key. Any good design takes more than a couple practice rounds—and so does creating the big, exciting, amazing life you deserve. In the end, you are responsible for finding and creating your own happiness in this life. Don’t lose that momentum! Take charge, get out, be your own driver and move forth with the confidence of knowing you can be great.

Tip: If you get this far and drop down, you’re screwed. Find some tenacity! Don’t procrastinate, because if you do, you’re in the same position as you were when you started this journey. And, quite clearly, that’s not where you wanted to be.

You deserve an extraordinary life. I know that, you know that, the world knows that. You just have to take the right steps in order to get there. So keep the above in mind when you begin your journey. Figure out what you want, set specific goals, muster up some confidence and take charge of your life. You got this! Now get to work!

What other steps should you take when pursuing a life you deserve?

Jennie Mustafa-Julock (Coach Jennie) is a life coach who specializes in helping people crank up the volume on their goals, ambitions and missions, transforming them into self-actualized, adventurous, audacious individuals. Check her out on Facebook, Twitter and through her book, Audacity Rules.

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  • http://www.jennstaz.com/ Jenn Staz

    Great tips, Jennie! I think the biggest roadblock for me right now is having too many options available and not being sure what the best avenue is for me to take. I will definitely be sitting down and taking the time to articulate what I really want, very soon.

    • http://www.coachjennie.com/ Coach Jennie

      Hi Jenn! Yep, this is a doozy for most people. There are so many possibilities that it’s easy to drown in them. Consider this though… just focus on what you want NEXT. The choice doesn’t have to be a life sentence, even though it sometimes feels like it.

  • MIOMOT

    Thanks for the tips Jennie! If you’ve already built a life, how do you keep that one from falling down around your ears (financially-house, bills, etc.) while you are taking the time, energy and effort to build the REAL life you want?

    • http://www.coachjennie.com/ Coach Jennie

      Great question! By not indulging in all or nothing thinking. Just set goals, make a little time and space to work on them, but keep the other things afloat simultaneously. It can be done, but it’s a balancing act.

  • cebuimage

    Financial matter is always a factor followed by intelligence and opportunity in your surrounding

    • http://www.coachjennie.com/ Coach Jennie

      Good point!

  • Christine Steffensen

    I couldn’t agree more Jennie! you really pin point the spots and your article gives me a lot of motivation to continue full filling my goals in life.

    • http://www.coachjennie.com/ Coach Jennie

      Thanks, Christine! Glad this article resonated with you!

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  • http://www.humorthatworks.com/ Andrew Tarvin

    For many people the biggest problem is in having too much that they could do, so they don’t do anything. I found success when I just picked one and adjusted along the way.

    • http://www.coachjennie.com/ Coach Jennie

      Well said, Andrew! The power of is under rated.

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